You hear it all the time from Mamas. Or maybe you even say it yourself. I know I did for a long time. I felt like my new life with a baby in no way resembled anything from my old life. My body was different, my sleep was different, my work was different, the needs of those around me were very, very different. I was grateful for my baby, but I felt a deep sense of despair for the life I left behind.
I struggled for a long time with how to feel like my old self, but the reality is that my life had changed forever. My old self wasn’t able to operate in this brand new world. But that didn’t mean I was going to give up on feeling like my mind, body and spirit were all nourished by the life I lived.
These were the pillars of my return to self.
Find your Tribe
When you first become a Mama, your whole life becomes about giving. Giving to this beautiful little human of yours. Our metaphorical cup gets pretty darn used up. In a sentiment similar to securing your mask before securing your childs on an aeroplane, you gotta fill that cup up if you are going to be of any use to anyone. Enter your “tribe”. The humans who you can complain with and relate to and drink more coffee than is healthy with and laugh so hard your whole heart fills up. Many studies of countries that have a high percentage of centenarians (people who live to be over 100 years old) cite a close knit community as one of the primary factors in health and longevity.
Apart from living a long time, spend time with your tribe because they light you up. You need more of that. Your family needs more of that. The world needs more of that.
Get in the Flow
“Flow, also known as the zone, is the mental state of operation in which a person performing an activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energised focus, full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity. In essence, flow is characterised by complete absorption in what one does, and a resulting loss in one’s sense of space and time.”
“It doesn’t matter how you get in flow, it just matters that you get there.”
It could be running, sewing, cooking, meditation, drawing, games, writing, yoga etc. Just pick one or five and do it daily.
Mind Body Connection
Our beliefs, feelings, thoughts and attitude affect our physical body every moment of every day. If our head is chaos, our bodies often follow (and our babes follow too which equals a pretty unhappy household!). Understanding how our mind affects our physical health is the first step in moving towards holistic wellness.
“Only when we identify the thoughts, feelings, beliefs and attitudes that are causing us pain can we begin to assess if we choose to hold on to them.”
Or you know, let that shit go!
Meaning and Purpose
We all want to know why we are here and what we are meant to do with our lives. It is an essential aspect of living a fulfilling and inspired life.
Our understanding of our life purpose can change many times over the years. I’m quite confident my life purpose when I was 22 was to look hot for festival season and to run a 10km PB. Insert eye roll here.
Some Mamas knew their souls purpose before their babies were born, others found it the moment their little one opened their eyes and some are still unsure. If you are in the latter category we have a blog post comin you way very soon. In the mean time, know that if you don’t have a clear, soul nourishing “why” then its probably going to be a struggle to haul your ass out of bed each morning.
Our very own Loretta of Nourished Energy once reminded me that my need to feel like “myself” again wasn’t selfish at all, Skye actually needed it even more than I did. Your babe needs you feeling confident, fulfilled, connected and nourished too.